Alexandra Labenz

Our daughter, Alexandra, is the most principled person we have ever known. This is an excerpt of a letter to her from her partner, Clark, on their one year anniversary.  We have changed the "I" to "we" because it perfectly mirrors our feelings about Alex.

We respect your work ethic, your curiosity, your drive, your analytical mind, your intellectual humility, your bravery, your elegance, your commitment to treating yourself and others with dignity. We respect that you have such a clear understanding of your values at such a young age, and that you're committed to living them even when it's difficult. We respect your patriotism, not nationalism, real patriotism driven by your love for your countrymen, not just your country. We respect your playfulness, your exuberance, and how you are so easily enchanted. We respect that you know what you want and you're willing to do what it takes to get it. 

It has been a privilege and a pleasure to know you. Keep on Twirling, Beautiful Girl. 

“Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love.  It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot.  All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest.  Grief is just love with no place to go.”

-Jamie Anderson

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SWEET CHILD

When a light is as bright

as the light you shone

there’s no such thing

as truly gone

When a smile is as precious

as the one you wore

you nestle in hearts

forevermore

When one so loved

is taken too soon

the love that is left

could outshine the moon


So much love with no place

to be truly at peace

so we love you more

bittersweet release


Sweet child

you were here

for so little in time

but the hole you left

grows ever wide.

From Loss, by Donna Ashworth, 2022

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Remembrances of Alex

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Remembrances of Alex

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